After persistent pleading, I finally agreed to play Mario Kart with my daughters. Our teenager had asked us to purchase the video game at the end of the school year, so they could enjoy it during their summer vacation. I was reluctant, since my plan was to spend the summer enjoying fun outdoor activities, while cutting screen time to a minimum.
Thanks to endless rainy days, my summer plans didn’t stand. Needless to say, there are only so many activities that a mother can come up with indoors.
That’s how I found myself with a Wii remote control in my hand, trying to figure out how to play my girls’ new favorite game.
The game is pretty simple. You hold a certain button on the remote control, which helps you accelerate, while turning the control to avoid walls, other cars, and – every so often – dark abysses.
The screen is split in two, so that you can watch your opponent’s race as well.
In the first several attempts, I did not have to do much to find myself hammered against walls, falling in abysses, and ending in last place. Mom was certainly having a hard time adapting to the oh-so-sensitive remote control.
But after playing the game for a while, my hands became steadier and my stats started improving.
As I realized that my little car had finished in fourth, then third place, my competitive spirit kicked in and I decided to get ahead of my opponents.
That’s when I started playing with one eye on my screen and the other on my daughter’s race.
I wanted to know her placement.
I had to see what extra powers she had acquired.
I tried to copy her moves.
And every time my eyes got off my lane, my race, I watched my little car plunge into an abyss, or hit a wall.
So long as I kept my eyes on my game, my car ended pretty well. Not first place — but not bad for this Atari generation mom. But the moment I decided to pay attention to the other cars in the race, I would lose my place and fall behind.
The popular video game made me think of something that I believe has become increasingly challenging in our society.
In this era of social media and reality TV shows, where we find ourselves comparing our not-so-glamorous lifestyles, inexpensive summer plans or struggling relationships to the Joneses on the screen, I believe many of us are crashing and burning, simply because we don’t focus on our own race.
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Whether comparing our bodies, children, marriages, jobs, friendships or ministries, we are living at a time of social distraction, where the grass seems always greener on the other side, and we often fall in the trap of pushing our way into someone else’s lane.
As I browse through my journal for the past year or so, it is evident that God has been working on this very issue in my life: “Stay focused on your race. Do not compare. Do not copy others. Just listen to My prompting and follow Me.”
Just as my thumbprints are unique, so are God’s plan for my life. My neighbor’s race was never meant to be a standard by which I measure my own success. Her fingerprints are hers. So is her race. God’s timing for each story is unique to that person’s readiness to fulfill their destiny. We must not forget that.
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May God help us stop wasting precious time and energy comparing ourselves to or mimicking others. Rather, let us concentrate on doing our very best on the lane God gave us to run. For then, even if we do not finish first, even if our journey is not as rich and full of applause as someone else’s, all that matters is that we finish our exclusive, individual course, and finish it well. That’s true success, not necessarily as the world views it. It’s success – God’s way.
This article was originally published in Patricia’s Column for The Atlanta Journal Constitution (AJC) on Saturday July 8th, 2017.
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Well that smacked me right between the eyes………
Thank you, I think… 😉
You’re welcome, Susan. Believe me – It smacked ME between the eyes several times before it smacked you 🙂 – Blessings to you!
Well that smacked me right between the eyes………
Thank you, I think… 😉
You’re welcome, Susan. Believe me – It smacked ME between the eyes several times before it smacked you 🙂 – Blessings to you!
Comparing our “race” with others is, indeed, a poisonous outlook, which leads to the sins of envy and coveting. May we, as Paul advised, run the race God intends for us, keeping Jesus as our goal.
Great post, Patricia!
Blessings!
Thank you, Martha!! 🙂
Comparing our “race” with others is, indeed, a poisonous outlook, which leads to the sins of envy and coveting. May we, as Paul advised, run the race God intends for us, keeping Jesus as our goal.
Great post, Patricia!
Blessings!
Thank you, Martha!! 🙂
This is also something that God is working in me. Your words are His perfect timing. There really is no need to look at another’s race as God loves is all equally too!
That’s right, Lynn… Our world is so competitive, right? But that does not fit God’s plan for us… we focus on Him and Him alone. That’s a good way not to miss the turns, crash and burn! Glad this spoke to you!
Blessings!
This is also something that God is working in me. Your words are His perfect timing. There really is no need to look at another’s race as God loves is all equally too!
That’s right, Lynn… Our world is so competitive, right? But that does not fit God’s plan for us… we focus on Him and Him alone. That’s a good way not to miss the turns, crash and burn! Glad this spoke to you!
Blessings!
Very well said Patricia.
Thanks again for your inspiring messages.
Thank YOU for being a faithful reader, Connie. Blessings to you!
Very well said Patricia.
Thanks again for your inspiring messages.
Thank YOU for being a faithful reader, Connie. Blessings to you!
Thanks for writing Patricia, great True article!
Thank you, sweet friend, for always being an encouragement to me. Love you!
Thanks for writing Patricia, great True article!
Thank you, sweet friend, for always being an encouragement to me. Love you!
Great message Patricia for secular readers of AJC who do ot understand the sovereignty of Jesus Christ over every detail of our lives, without partiality or evil intent but with love that our limited minds cannot comprehend. His way is best, His word is proven. God is using you mightily Patricia, may He continue to do so in ways greater than you can ask or think.
Thank you, Walt! I am so honored to write for the AJC and appreciate your continuous encouragement to my ministry! Blessings,
Great message Patricia for secular readers of AJC who do ot understand the sovereignty of Jesus Christ over every detail of our lives, without partiality or evil intent but with love that our limited minds cannot comprehend. His way is best, His word is proven. God is using you mightily Patricia, may He continue to do so in ways greater than you can ask or think.
Thank you, Walt! I am so honored to write for the AJC and appreciate your continuous encouragement to my ministry! Blessings,