It is with great excitement that I share my friend and awesome writer Amy Carroll’s beautiful blog post today. She is a speaker for Proverbs 31 Ministries, a speaking coach for Next Steps Speaker Services and (most importantly) a wonderful woman of God. Amy was the leader at my speaker group during the She Speaks conference in 2013. We have kept in touch since then and I’ve learned to love her heart. She accepted the invitation to read my manuscript and wrote a beautiful endorsement for Twelve Inches, which I am forever grateful for. And last year we found out that our first books were coming out on the same date (we started calling our books “Twinsies”). Her new book, Breaking up with Perfect is a beautiful work for the body of Christ. And she is giving a copy away to a blessed reader this week. Just comment on her post below and your name will be entered for a giveaway. Winner will be announced next week! Now, get ready to be blessed!
Out of Control and Loving it
“It’s a good day when the water on the bathroom floor isn’t higher than the top of your sandals,” quipped my friend Cathy as our women’s conference in India drew to a close.
Now that’s a new measure of a good day!
India is overload for American senses. Your eye fills with the bright colors of saris, strings of marigolds for a festival, and stacks of fruit being sold in a roadside stand. In your peripheral vision, cars whiz by laced with motorcycles carrying whole families, and you think you might have just seen a bull in the midst of the traffic’s snarl.
The food is an explosion of ten thousand tastes in every bite. Unknown flying objects and pollution make the air a tactile experience, and my friend says that India is “an amusement park for the nose.” It’s the smell of spices, piles of trash, millions of bodies, and the fragrance of flowers.
India feels like chaos to this ordered American girl.
And I love it.
Part of my heart resides in Kolkata, but it seems hard to figure out why. I don’t speak the language, so sometimes communicating is difficult. There’s a different measure of cleanliness which presents significant challenges at times. The ways of people there—from eating to shopping to potties– are diametrically opposed to my own so that the culture shock is more like a sizzling bolt from the sky than a mild zap from a socket.
So why do I love India so much?
I love the wildness of India. It teams with life in every inch, and it keeps me off kilter. India communicates the exotic, extreme Life of God to me. As CS Lewis said of his character Aslan, a lion who is the symbol of God in the Narnia stories, “He’s not a tame lion. But he’s good.”
Somehow in America, I slide back into my own view of perfection—a room perfectly straightened, mess-free relationships, a god who behaves the way I like and with the timing I approve. In India, all my cultural crutches are removed. I seek God in every move, and I see Him everywhere.
It’s in the midst of unpredictability that I sense the presence of God most acutely and when I feel the most alive. Yet I’ve been reluctant to give up control. From the time I was a little girl, I tried to shape myself and my environment to please others and earn love. It’s a mistake to try to live this way, though.
God crafted us to reflect His image, not to create our own.
Trying to shape our own image into what we consider perfect gives us less life instead of more. Perfection might make us feel more comfortable, but then we miss out on the majestic wildness of following our untamed but wholly good God.
Let’s break up with our idea of perfection and walk into the foreign land of trusting God fully as He shapes the perfect path for us filled with His Life.
Today we’re giving away a copy of Amy’s Carroll’s newly released book Breaking Up with Perfect. Leave a comment to enter, or if you’re living life at warp speed today, simply say “I’m breaking up with perfect!” in the comments.
I can relate with her, I too strive hard sometime for perfection but I find that I am most at home when I let go and let God.
I, like Amy, tried to be perfect in everyway so I’d make everyone happy and they’d love me. It’s taken years to “try” to break up with perfect and I’m still working on it, BUT with God’s grace I believe I’m getting there! I can’t wait to read your book and digest each page. Wonderful Christians like Amy & Patricia are God’s gifts to me to help me as I struggle to have more faith,trust and “Obey God & leave the consequences to Him”!
Thank you for the encouragement, Marge! Just like you’re saying, I’m still very much in process, but God is faithfully working in me.
Looking forward to reading this book!
When we realize God is the only “perfect” being…we take the pressure off us and allow God to be “God”.
You’re so right, Marie!
I like the part that says, “It’s in the midst of unpredictability that I sense the presence of God most acutely and when I feel the most alive. Yet I’ve been reluctant to give up control.” That’s me! Sounds like a great book.
Stephanie
Thanks for the reminder, Amy.
Perfect! Who’s that? I look for him every morning when I wake up. Then I pray for him before I homeschool my kids. Crumbs on the kitchen counter, pieces of fresh cut grass on the hardwood floors, dirty dishes in the sink, and an upset child with tears streaming down his face because someone did something! All that keeps me trying to find perfection so I can make everyone happy and keep everything going. Then my husband comes home from work! Although he is very helpful and handsome, he is not perfect either. I AM DONE! I am breaking up with perfect. I need this book so that I can find out how to break up with myself.
Chasity Dedman
I am encouraged by your blog and book. I developed RSD, am offel dreadful neaurlogical disease about 10 years ago in my early 40’s. I had to eventually leave work and where I was slim, made good money became lost in my body of not only my looks, my son’s life. I ask myself. How will I give him now. Lots of questions, lot of heartache because not only now do I have this dreadful disease but I’m not pretty anymore. I’ve caught myself settling a lot because of this. I love Jesus Christ and He is who’s gotten me this far. I thank God, He has provided. May not have been the best but who needs. The best except for Him….Amen